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Apathy and Cynicism Zap Our Spirit
By Jim Clemmer
"The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. The opposite
of art is not ugliness, it's indifference. The opposite of faith is not
heresy, it's indifference. And the opposite of life is not death, it's
indifference." — Elie Wiesel, French-American writer and 1986
Nobel Peace Prize winner
Jack and Elizabeth are in their mid seventies and love life.
They had fulfilling careers and raised three children who now have families
of their own. There aren't enough hours in the day for all they like to
do. Walking, swimming, traveling, volunteer work, community service club
activities, family gatherings, hobbies, and reading keep them very busy.
Jack has been taking a few university courses in religion, philosophy,
and literature. Elizabeth has just been certified as a master gardener.
When they can squeeze it in (and they feel emotionally up to the challenge),
they try to help out their neighbors, the Reddens (who are about 10 years
younger).
Howard Redden is practically a shut-in with his ailing heart and numerous
other health problems. He and his wife, Sylvia, spend most of their waking
hours watching television and snarling at each other. Their children visit
or call just often enough to feel that they've fulfilled their family
duties. Conversations with the Reddens are filled with bitterness, vicious
gossip, complaints about their health and boredom, and lots of blaming
governments, their kids, and fate for their many problems and ailments.
It's inspiring to be with those optimists in their 60s, 70s, 80s or even
90s who are excited about some new venture or interest. Too many people
let their disappointments and cynicism slowly extinguish their life spark.
When they reach their senior years they are bitter and jaded. Their dead
spirits rattle in bodies that haven't been laid to rest yet. It's sad
to see people who are putting in time until retirement. They hate, or
just tolerate, their work, as they bide their time waiting for life to
begin. They put off living and slowly die in the process. If they reach
retirement, they're left wondering, "is this all there is? Is this
what life is all about?"
"How long have you worked here?" "Ever since my boss threatened
to fire me." Far too many people have retired, but still show up
for work. Others have resigned but still go through the motions and are
on the payroll. Some people who complain that they aren't paid what they're
worth should be thankful. On-the-job-retirees who waste their lives in
a 'dead-end job' they don't enjoy aren't making a living, they're making
a dying. They are slaves no matter how much money they make, status they
achieve, or power they wield.
Studies of thriving people and their successful career paths show that
the type of jobs they have had is much less important than the type of
person they are. There are no dead-end jobs, but there are dead-end people.
Less successful people in unfulfilling jobs often make the mistake of
thinking that they are working for someone else.
Apathy and cynicism usually take root early in life. If unchecked by middle
age, they lead to bitterness, lack of energy, health problems, depression,
and related difficulties. A public opinion poll taken by the National
Opinion Research Center found that over half of all adults in their twenties
rate their lives as 'exciting.' Once people reach their forties this slips
to 46 percent. At sixty it falls to 34 percent. The Noble Prize winning
French philosopher, physician, and musician, Albert Schweitzer, fervently
believed "the tragedy of life is what dies inside a person while
they live."
As the years slide by, a growing number of people don't really live, they
merely exist — trapped in their lives of quiet desperation. Just
getting by is as dangerous as resting in the snow on a frigid winter night;
our passion and spirit dozes off and dies in our sleep.
Excerpted from Jim's fourth bestseller, Growing
the Distance: Timeless Principles for Personal, Career, and Family
Success. View the book's unique format and content, Introduction
and Chapter One, and feedback showing why nearly 100,000 copies
are now in print at www.growingthedistance.com.
Jim's new companion book to Growing the Distance is The
Leader's Digest: Timeless Principles for Team and Organization Success.
Jim Clemmer is an internationally acclaimed keynote speaker, workshop/retreat
leader, and management team developer on leadership, change, customer
focus, culture, teams, and personal growth. His web site is www.clemmer.net.
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